In the mornings my daughter likes to brush her teeth and get dressed in the bathroom with me while I put my make up on. When I first look at myself in the mirror I usually make a negative comment about myself. I do this without even thinking. It is casual. It is automatic. I’m just verbalizing what is running through my head. I don’t like my hair. I think I look old and tired. I’ll make a comment about my outfit that I just put on, it doesn’t really matter. Most times it’s just in humor but I definitely need to stop doing this. This is because right next to me in the mirror is my daughter. My other mirror. As I stand there and make judgements about myself I can see her watching me looking into the mirror and then looking at herself and making her own judgements about what she sees there. I tell her to love all the parts of herself and that she is beautiful and good and kind. Then like a liar I turn to the mirror and only talk about how I don’t like what I see there. I need to stop doing this. Now. I need to walk the walk and talk positively to that woman in the mirror. I don’t want the little girl in the mirror to just fixate on what she doesn’t like when she looks at herself because she thinks that’s what you do when you grow up. I’m making a promise now to look at myself with love and acceptance because that is what I want for both girls in the mirror.
The girl in the mirror